acts of kindness

Living Her Passion – Dorothy Mielke

Dot Mielke hard at work sewing another mask.

Dot Mielke hard at work sewing another mask.

Although Dorothy (Dot) Mielke has never experienced a pandemic like COVID-19, she did live through the scourge of the polio epidemic. Just before her second birthday in 1942, Dot, along with her three sisters, contracted polio. “While we were quarantined in the house, my dad was harvesting wheat in South Dakota,” said Dot. “They got word to him, but he couldn’t come home because he wasn’t allowed in the house.” Her mother was helped daily by a nurse and people in the community gifted the children with many toys. When the fever finally broke, all of Dot’s toys had to be burned except for one doll her mother set aside for her. Until the early 1950s when a polio vaccine was finally developed, Dot remembers not being able to congregate or swim in public pools, and the general anxiety surrounding the fears of contracting the virus. Unfortunately, the virus left Dot unable to walk without assistance again. Still, that did not stop her from living a full life, thanks to the mentorship and guidance from her father and greatest advocate. In a time when many people with disabilities were institutionalized, her father made her crutches and a ramp with rails so she could practice walking on her own—all while encouraging her to believe in her ability to persevere.

While growing up in Hastings, Nebraska, Dot learned to sew from her mother. “In that day and age if you knew how to sew, it saved money,” Dot added. The first thing she sewed with pride was a gathered skirt, a fashionable item in that era. After Dot matured into young adulthood, she learned to view herself without a disability, married, sewed clothes for her children, and eventually earned a degree in Special Education. When her battles with post-polio and carpal tunnel syndromes forced her to retire after nineteen years as a secondary special education teacher in the Omaha Public School system, Dot began sewing clothes and costumes for her grandchildren, and creating beautiful dance costumes for youth in the Omaha community. She hadn’t sewn for the past three years—until a new pandemic emerged on the horizon.

Just before Easter, a now seventy-nine-year-old Dot retrieved her sewing machine from storage and began creating masks. “I thought that since I had all this leftover material from sewing Halloween and dance costumes years ago, I might as well utilize it for good and sew masks for my family members,” she stated. Dot then conducted extensive research online on pattern development, filter options, and sewing supply availability and eventually decided that a triple layer of washable fabric, with an included pocket to insert a Scott’s shop rag, would provide the most protection. Her biggest challenge since then has been sourcing elastic and shop rags. Once her granddaughter, Gabby, began delivering the masks to family and sharing photos of the masks on social media, the positive responses were plentiful.

Dot utilizes many colorful fabrics for the masks she creates.

Dot utilizes many colorful fabrics for the masks she creates.

As Dot started feeling good about herself and her new purpose, she used her stimulus check to purchase more elastic, shop rags, and new cotton fabric she thought would bring a smile to people’s faces—even if they couldn’t be seen behind their masks. It makes her smile when she receives grateful messages and gifts from the recipients of her masks. “It’s the little things that mean so much more than money,” she added. Making the masks has rejuvenated Dot. Although her hands are numb on most days, Dot has sewn over 150 masks to date. She encourages her recipients to wash her masks between each use, so they stay sanitary and offer the best protection all around.

Today, she finds herself busier than ever, serving a new purpose that fills a need in her community. Her new mantra is, “Saving the world, one face at a time.” Dot takes special orders for masks every week, and continues to sew masks for adults and children, even when orders are low, knowing that soon school will be back in session and events will be re-scheduled. When asked what advice she would offer someone struggling with a disability, Dot encourages others to, “Just be you. I ask people to try to see me as I see me, not with a disability but just as Dot.” Although she is quite content with her life, Dot admitted that just for one day, she would like to stand on her tiptoes and be like one of the young dancers she once sewed costumes for.

Completed masks ready for her many recipients.

Completed masks ready for her many recipients.

When reflecting on the pandemic and ways to cope, Dot urges people to use common sense, listen to advice from medical professionals, and not to believe everything they hear and read. Her own tactics include avoiding the news, binging on good television shows, and doing things that make her happy. As her life comes full circle and Dot is provided an opportunity to reassure all of us that this too shall pass, just like the polio epidemic, she gently reminds us of the importance of always being good stewards for others, no matter what the circumstances or challenges.

To place an order for a mask or masks, reach out to Dot at dotmasks@gmail.com.

Vicky DeCoster is a Certified Life Coach based in Omaha, Nebraska, who specializes in helping her clients both locally and nationwide to move past obstacles, create a plan for happiness, and cross the bridge of transition to find a new and fulfilling direction in life. To read more about her and her practice, visit her at crossthebridgecoaching.com.

What Are You Doing to Pay It Forward?

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A recent magazine article profiled a woman who, after turning eighty, decided to celebrate her birthday in a different way. Inspired by a friend who decades earlier gifted a mutual acquaintance with twenty-one roses on her twenty-first birthday, the woman began contemplating how she could pay it forward and help others—all while rejoicing in her long life. As she started to pull together a plan to hand-deliver eighty dollars to eighty friends and relatives, ask them to gift it to someone in need, and then send her a note to tell her about the experience, the woman had no idea of the positive impact her plan would have not just on the world, but also on her. As the notes detailing one amazing experience after another started to fill her mailbox, the woman soon realized that even the smallest of gestures have the power to spread monumental joy. Her most important takeaway lesson was that in her efforts to help and lift others, her life was forever changed as well.

We all know that life is not easy. It is full of just as much heartache as joy and just as many challenges as effortless tasks. When we are able to detach from the unhelpful practice of comparing ourselves to others, we also know deep inside that none of us are better than anyone else. We are all here to love, learn, struggle, and celebrate. No matter how much money we have in our bank accounts, we are all exiting this life the same way. Wherever we reside in the world, we are more alike than we imagine.

Every morning when we awaken to begin a new day, we are presented with the opportunity to transform the world around us with kindness. Paying it forward doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. It can be as simple as buying a cup of coffee for a friend or stranger, inviting a widowed neighbor to dinner, offering a genuine hug to someone who is suffering, taking in the neighbor’s trash can on a windy day, writing a thank-you note to a friend or co-worker who picked up the lunch tab, whispering encouragement to a young adult struggling to find himself or herself, or apologizing to someone for being impatient, rude, or angry during a time when portraying a calm presence would have been a better choice.

In paying it forward, we are not only reminding others of the importance of kind gestures, but also ourselves. While it is easy to become caught up in the busyness of life, it is also just as easy to slow down, take a look around, and realize that someone needs you right now. That someone may be a stranger, a client, your company’s CEO, or someone you love more than anything.

To transform your thinking toward paying it forward as often as possible, remember the three words you learned when crossing the street for the first time: Stop. Look. Listen. Someone needs hope. Someone needs encouragement. Someone needs love. Someone needs to know that in the midst of navigating this often-challenging life, there is light.

In the act of gifting someone with a tiny moment of joy in this imperfect existence we call life, you give yourself the greatest gift of all: the knowledge that we are all in this together.

Make a difference.

“A purposeful act or extension of kindness to another is never wasted, for it always resides in the hearts of all involved in a chain of love.”

Molly Friedenfeld

Vicky DeCoster is a Certified Life Coach based in Omaha, Nebraska, who specializes in helping her clients both locally and nationwide to move past obstacles, create a plan for happiness, and cross the bridge of transition to find a new and fulfilling direction in life. To read more about her and her practice, visit her at crossthebridgecoaching.com.